Do we have trouble decoding male psychology and decoding what men want? Why are men so difficult to read? Why can’t we tell if a man likes us, even if he’s told us so? If you’re familiar with the classic case of “Does he like me? Does he like me not?” then you’re going to be stunned to discover just how easy it is to get into a guy’s head and heart!
Let’s get started! Say that you’re in a conversation with a guy that you’ve been on a date with, and you’re hoping to get him interested in you. So what’s the first step to figuring this out? Remember that it is completely up to you to make it happen.
- Follow his eye contact. Have you ever notice a guy looking at someone but trying to avoid making eye contact? Eye contact is the golden means of communicating that, “I’m interested in what you have to say.” It expands to looking for an opening wherein we can start a conversation. A glance and a captivating grin, however, can be a complete turn-off. A dazzling glance followed by a warm smile can melt the most solid of males. So if you’re going to be able to catch his eye, then you should try to display a smile first. It’s like a sign of friendliness and a welcoming gesture. Practice at home, or in front of the mirror; you want to make sure that you’re comfortable with your attempt to racialize his emotions.
- Once you’ve locked eye contact and smiled, you might want to try to initiate a conversation. Speak softly and clearly so that he has to move in closer to hear you. If you’re in a noisy area or a crowded bar, don’t give him too much space to maneuver. You don’t want to block his view. Now’s the time to get into his space. Once you’re speaking use the space inabilities mentioned earlier and lean in slightly to the side or front. Just briefly put your hand on his arm or shoulder for a moment, and go about your business. Now is the time to manipulate the attraction that you’ve already established at this stage.
- Make sure that you’re giving out plenty of positive and non-critical signals. This may seem somewhat odd, but say something positive about how he looks, moves, and carries himself. After the initial introduction, answer any questions that he might ask about yourself. Be open, friendly, and engaging. Put your best foot forward. Put him at ease and feel at ease yourself. This, by far, is the most difficult part of decoding male psychology. It can be very difficult for us to be at ease with people that we’ve just met. So by going through the process of first introducing yourself, hearing about his interests, showing interest in him, correcting him if he’s doing something incorrectly, Insider you’re already winning points with him. Go easy, though, on the compliments. Sometimes guys don’t respond well to being praised.
- Make it very clear that this is a casual encounter. If you were on a date with a friend, would you feel nervous that you’re now talking to a new man? That depends. You’re trying to get him interested by flirting with him. You’re trying to create an intimate moment, which is leading to a relationship. The more you can’t believe that this is happening, because you are an amazing person and he sees that it’s happening, the more powerful the interaction becomes.
- While you may want to get a very specific reaction from him, be very careful about this. The fact that he can shoot you down can be completely demoralizing, especially if you shoot back. If you make it understandable that you’re being shot down, your problem is solved. If you’re rejected and you understand why he did it, you can deal with it moving forward to a meeting.
Now that you’ve gone over the process of decoding male psychology, the next thing you can do is to think about how you can meet the right guy and fall in love. So what? Do you have a relationship with your dream guy that you’ve met via this type of book? Would you like to begin flirting again and hopefully succeed this time around? For anyone who is shy or has a hard time making friends, you can get help meeting eligible men with Dr. Jennifer expecting a warm smile and a warm heart.
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